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Why Cry?

Thursday, January 13th, 2011

Pheromones play a role in communication in other species, so why not in humans too? This study looked for pheromones in women’s tears and asked what their possible function could be. The summary of the study states that tears shed emotionally have a different chemical composition from tears in reaction to an irritant (like cutting on an onion). They didn’t teach that to us in medical school so it caught my attention immediately. Why would that be? It implies that emotional tears have a mysterious function and started me wondering why people cry when they are upset anyway. Notably infants cry a lot but don’t shed tears with their crying until they are several weeks or even months old. But I digress.

The study in question measured the effect of smelling a woman’s tears on sexual arousal in men. I can’t imagine why they thought of asking this question, but they did. The control substance for the study was some saline that had been trickled down the cheeks of the women to pick up the scent of any perfume or skin cream etc. They measured sexual arousal by physiological factors such as heart rate, testosterone level and skin temperature. They also inferred it from how the men rated the attractiveness of pictures of women’s faces which seems like a rather indirect measure of arousal. The best measure that they used was looking at how intensely brain regions lit up in a specialized brain scan when the men were shown erotic images. There was a distinct decrease if the men had been exposed to the tears first.

What possible role could there be for this unidentified substance in a woman’s tears that decreases the tendency for men to be sexually aroused? I am stumped. Ideas, anyone?

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Sex and the Single Fruit Fly

Tuesday, December 29th, 2009

Well, readers, I could not resist this one, especially after all the holiday goodies. Our little friends the fruit flies come to our attention again, this time in a study of sexual behavior and how it relates to the female’s body size. Turns out that the male fruit fly likes his females big and when offered a choice will pursue the fattest female he can find. The researchers hypothesize that this is because the fatter females lay more eggs, but who are we to say whether this is a cold-blooded evolutionary decision or just a reflection of the male view of the ideal feminine figure. Either way the observation is that the males will harass these fat females and interfere with their eating. This is a brave maneuver since the females are substantially larger and did not get to be that way by being disinterested in food. The females eventually mate with the harassing males, more times than they need to in order to fertilize their eggs, perhaps fantasizing about their next meal. Females that have been sexually harassed lay less eggs than they would have if left to graze peacefully. The scientists have their say about how individuals do not always act in a way that is best for the species. They sounded a little surprised or disturbed by this. Perhaps they have been in the lab too much and are out of touch with human history. Here’s a tasty tidbit: male crickets deliver a meal to the female of their choice. That’s a better strategy, don’t you think?

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What Keeps Sex Alive in Couples

Wednesday, October 21st, 2009

What keeps sex alive in long term couples? Most couples have a strong erotic charge in the courtship phase of the relationship, usually lasting about 2 years. Then the honeymoon is over, as they say, and the couple has to successfully negotiate a transition to a different kind of sexual life. It’s like speeding down a road that suddenly makes a sharp turn. Lots of couples end up in the ditch of sexless relationships. Lots of rusting vehicles down there. The traditional psychological approach to the problem highlights the role of trust, security and emotional intimacy. But is that what really promotes an enduring erotic attraction?

A study reported in the Wall Street Journal suggests that couples in which the man does more housework have more sex. Lots of room for interpretation here, as the comments to the article indicate. Are these just over-achieving couples? Is this feminist propaganda, as more than one commenter suggested? Or are these couples with egalitarian relationships, cooperating in maintaining their life together and therefore more sexually involved with each other?

On the other side is the point of view espoused by Esther Perel in her book “Mating in Captivity”. She proposes that emotional intimacy can be the death of eroticism. She would say that the unknown and a sense of risk rather than security provide more erotic charge. She would say that you need a little distance from your partner, to be able to see him or her as separate and different, in order to kindle desire. A review from The Atlantic describes the controversies stirred up by this point of view.

I think there are as many ways to keep the erotic charge alive as there are people in couples trying to do it. Someone with a childhood full of uncertainty and danger may find security and safety a necessary component of sex. Alternatively, that same background could influence someone to eroticize danger and risk to the exclusion of security. There are many life stories and many adaptations.
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